You Work From Home — How Do You Have Work Besties?

Returning home from a Saturday networking event, excited and in full ADHD chatter about how much fun I had, how I really enjoyed doing this event with one of my work besties, lost in the dopamine hit as only a true ADHDer can be, I was interrupted by my husband:

“You work from home… how do you have work besties?”
He said it with genuine curiosity, not sarcasm.
Screeched to a halt came the dopamine excitement, and the excitement of the networking train of thought, a sudden shift of tracks….

OH that’s right, I have a whole world that is not in my everyday life, yet a part of my everyday life. Maybe it’s time to talk about that!

There’s this assumption that if you work from home, especially as a therapist or healer, you’re sitting in a room by yourself, slowly spiraling into professional isolation. But for me, the truth is quite the opposite.

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I Have Work Besties — They Just Don’t All Live Here (well some do, but most don’t)

I have several work besties, and they live all over the country.

Some of them, I’ve never met in person — we found each other online through coaching programs, collaborations, or even social media threads that turned into real friendships.

Others are local — we’ve met for coffee now and then — but most of our connection happens online. We hop on Sunday Zoom calls, check in by voice note, and co-work in real time, from wherever we are.

These relationships? They’re real.
They’re intentional.
And they’re saving me from burnout.

I Was Afraid Going Online Would Be Lonely

As a therapist, I need connection with others who understand what this work takes — emotionally, mentally, energetically.

I used to think working online would strip that away. That I'd be trading connection for convenience. But then I watched my kids build real friendships online — deep, trusting ones. They’d laugh, support each other, and build community in Minecraft or Discord the way I used to at lunch tables and break rooms.

And I thought… why not me?

Online Friendships Can Be Deeper Than In-Person Ones

And honestly? I prefer these relationships to many I had in past in-person jobs.

Back then, we connected mostly because we showed up at the same office. Now, my work besties are people I chose. People who chose me.

We make time to meet — not because we’re forced into the same break room — but because we value each other’s support. We bounce around ideas, talk marketing and mindset, cry, laugh, vent, and get each other through the weirdness that is online entrepreneurship.

They’ve seen me in every state:

• Polished and put-together before a presentation

• Disheveled and under-caffeinated on a Sunday brainstorm call

• Fragile after a tough week with clients

• Buzzing with excitement after a big win

These people get me — my work, my energy, my mission. They challenge me…to grow, confront my fears, to TALK about my money challenges.

Neurodivergent Folks Often Prefer This Way of Connecting

I work with many neurodivergent and highly sensitive women, and let me tell you — this kind of connection works for us.

We don’t always thrive in noisy mixers or drop-in groups full of surface-level small talk, it’s exhausting and often feels like we are pushing against our natural desire to go deep fast. We CAN do it, it just leaves us depleted and takes a lot of our spoons.

We like the slow burn of connection — repetitive, intentional interactions that help us decide if someone is safe, aligned, consistent.

And when we do connect around shared goals or mutual understanding?
We skip the water cooler and dive into the deep end.

So Yes — I Have Work Besties

I never imagined going online would grow my sense of community. But it did.

My work besties are a lifeline. A mirror. A brain trust. A nervous system regulation squad.

If you’re thinking about going online — whether as a therapist, coach, healer, or creative — I want you to know that isolation doesn’t have to be your fate.

With a little intention, you can build the community you need.
You can find your people.
You can create meaningful connection — even from your kitchen table in pajama pants.

One More Thing

If you’re sitting in your home office wondering if you’ll ever find your people, consider this your nudge.

✨ Start a conversation.
💛 Join that group.
🌱 Say hi to someone new at the next Zoom event.

Your future work bestie might be one message away.